Monthly Archives: September 2014

Secret Keepin’

Do you like to know secrets? When you serve in ministry, you have to become good at secret keepin’ as you are often the first person other’s turn to with their secrets. Sometimes, it’s good and happy news. At other times, it is heartache and pain. I much prefer the happy secrets, how about you?

Are you trustworthy with secrets? Is it hard to keep someone’s news to yourself? Or are you the person your friends and family know to tell when they want the word out?

When someone confides in you, what they are saying is that they have confidence both in your grace-filled response and in your ability to communicate about it only when appropriate to do so, even when it means keeping a secret for an extended period of time. Are you a person who can keep a confidence?

Psalm 25:14 says, The Lord confides in those who fear Him; He makes His covenant known to them.” According to this verse, God knows He can trust those who “fear” Him. To fear God means to honor Him and order your life in accordance with His will. The blessing for fearing God is that He shares His “secrets” with you. However, unlike when you were a teenager, His “secrets” aren’t meant to exclude others. You see, God’s secrets, are meant to be shared. He wants you to spread His business to others. This is the only relationship where it’s OK to tell others the news you have heard in secret.

Too often we share the things that need to be kept quiet and keep quiet the things that need to be shared. When God takes you into His confidence by sharing things through His Word and Spirit, don’t keep the good news to yourself. Share it with as many as you can – friends, family, co-workers, those within your circle of influence.

Use discipline to keep other’s secrets. Use your voice to share God’s secrets. Be a person He has confidence in:

  • Confidence that you will take time to listen to His secrets.
  • Confidence that you will obey order your life with His will.
  • Confidence that you will share His secrets of life and Godliness with others.

Personal Reflection:

  • How good are you at keeping a secret? Would those close to you say they are “confident” you would receive news in a gracious way and keep it to yourself? Or would they say they are “confident” you would spread their news quicker than you can spread soft butter on a piece of warm toast.
  • Psalm 25:14 says the Lord confides in those who fear Him. Do you honor God and live your life in a way that shows that?
  • God’s ways “secrets” are meant to be shared with others. Who can you share His secrets with today?

Your Friend in Ministry,


The Buddy Bench

Kids in our town started school this week. Here’s a picture of my kiddos on the first day of school. I know I may be just a tad prejudiced, but aren’t those some good looking kids? (-smile-)

1st day of school

We live up the street from an elementary school. In fact, it was the elementary school that my kids went to a few years back. For the many years my kids attended that school, I would slow down as I drove by to see if I could spot them during recess. My eyes would scan the playground for a little girl with a pink coat and/or a little boy with no coat. You can tell which one of our kids likes to follow the rules and which one doesn’t, can’t you . . .?

Most days, I would spot them and they would be in a group of friends playing or at least with one other playmate. There were some days, however, when I would see them wandering the playground all alone. On those days, it was all I could do not to pull the car over and run onto the playground and give them a big hug.

Recently I heard the story of an elementary aged boy who made a “Buddy Bench” outside on his playground.  The “Buddy Bench” was designed to help combat playground loneliness.  He said, “If you are sitting there someone comes to ask if you want to talk or play”.

What a great idea!  Don’t you wish all schools had a “Buddy Bench”?

Don’t you wish ministry had a “Buddy Bench”? We all have seasons where we experience loneliness. We see groups of friends laughing, talking and playing and we feel like we are serving God alone. If that’s the case, ask God to bring you some friends you can serve Him with. Just because you are in ministry doesn’t mean that you have to be lonely.  Ministry does not have to equal loneliness.  If you feel alone, or maybe you have been hurt by trying to be friends with those in your church, may I implore you to try again?  God has friends out there for you, sometimes you just have to wait for them to show up.

If you are in a season of loneliness, I will be your friend. I pray this blog serves as a place of friendship, love, encouragement and support for those of us who serve God in ministry. You’ve got a friend in me!

Your Friend in Ministry,


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